Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Patience and Waiting for the Right Time

"Adopt the pace of nature, her secret is patience." 
Ralph Waldo Emerson, American philosopher (1803-1882)

My husband Lee and I recently planted a fall garden. We want to eat fresh, healthy, organic food, so what better way than growing our own vegetables? With broccoli, kale, Swiss chard, spinach, beets, carrots and peas coming up, we're looking forward to a bounty of nutritious food in the months to come.

Before planting them, we soaked the seeds in water overnight, which accelerates the germination time. Still, it took days before the little sprouts broke through the surface of the ground. And checking on them daily, I was able to discern only the tiniest amount of growth.

For the plants to develop the vegetables we eventually want to harvest, the right balance of sun and moisture are required. But another key ingredient is also needed: TIME.

No amount of rushing around, pushing or fretting will cause these vegetables to grow faster. No, the process of gardening, like many other endeavors in life, requires PATIENCE.

In these times of instant gratification, where you can order what you want with the click of a button, we've become a society of impatient people who don't want to have to wait...for anything.

The desire to move fast and have something NOW is seen everywhere…

- The driver behind you at the stoplight, who expects you to accelerate the instant the light turns green, and honks at you if you don’t

- The person in a check-out line who’s constantly switching lines and glancing around to see if another line is moving faster

- The colleague teaching you to use a piece of equipment, software, or other tool and getting annoyed when you don’t master it as quickly as he or she did

- The parents who have a young child they're pushing to walk, talk or learn some other skill earlier than the children of their friends

The art of waiting for good things to come seems to be disappearing in place of a demand for immediate results.

I'm all in favor of taking initiative and making things happen.

But there are times when you’ve done everything you can, and you simply have to wait for time to work its magic.

You CAN'T do any more, and in fact, you can cause problems if you continue to push or try to take control of the situation.

If you find yourself getting upset because things aren’t going the way you’d hoped, take a moment to pause and ask yourself this important question:

“Is there anything I can do right now to move things forward?” 

If the answer is yes, then do it. But if it’s no, then you need to get to a place of acceptance as quickly as possible. You may in fact need to take action, but not NOW. Waiting for the right time is a critical aspect of patience.

You’ll save yourself a lot of frustration and disappointment if you learn to manage your expectations. When you adjust your perspective, you’ll be more serene in the face of circumstances that are beyond your control.

“Some things arrive on their own mysterious hour, on their own terms and not yours, to be seized or relinquished forever.” - Gail Godwin, American novelist (1937- )


  1. I am thoroughly thrilled to be stopping by your blog to read this right now today!! Isn't it funny how the lesson that we need to learn or be gently nudged (or banged over the head!!) about shows up in our life at the right time. Patience IS my LIFE lesson. I KNOW THIS. I have had a tendency to want to hurry up an rush things, want them yesterday, watch the pot boil etc, my entire life. Consequently, I have been met with some frustration or uncomfortable lessons at those times. At the same time, I am a fervent believer in prayer, letting go and allowing God to take over!
    You are so right, that the more we can move into an accepting place, and allow The Universe to bring us the answers, just like your seeds maturing in their own natural time period, when they are ready to...the less we will go through AGING PAIN!!
    I swear it puts years on us doesn't it!! You can't force a garden to grow, a pot to boil, a boyfriend to call you, a person to say "I'm sorry, a check to come in the mail, a customer to buy, a child to go to sleep, to eat etc. Life happens in its time...
    Our feelings of happiness and joy in the allowing will relax the process however...I do believe that. The more at peace we can be, and let go..surrendering...the magic will happen in our lives!
    Wonderful post!!!

  2. Thank you so much for sharing your insights and life lessons around patience! I am very glad you found your way here at just the right time.


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