Showing posts with label Your Voice of Encouragement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Your Voice of Encouragement. Show all posts

Monday, November 9, 2009

Inspiring Others: Wisdom from Harvey Mackay

I love these words from Harvey Mackay, one of my favorite business leaders:

"A mediocre person tells. A good person explains. A superior person demonstrates. A great person inspires others to see for themselves."

Too often, well-intentioned people give advice and think they're truly helping another person. I've certainly been guilty of doing that. And I have to admit that "mediocre" accurately describes the results I got from that approach.

When we were children, most of us didn't like to be told what to do. And as adults, we often interpret such an approach as condescending or corrective. It shuts down communication and prevents further learning by either person.

Today I'm eager to help "others to see for themselves." I believe the key to achieving that goal is asking questions. Not simple "yes" or "no" questions either. Questions that causes others to reflect on their situation and discover answers for themselves.

Next time someone is discussing a problem or challenge with you, resist the urge to tell them what to do. Instead, listen carefully to what they're saying and then ask questions to help them explore their feelings...their needs...and the possibilities. They will feel understood at the end of the conversation and will be more likely to act upon the insights they've discovered for themselves.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Encouragement at the Gym

I work out almost every week day at the gym. Twice a week I attend a class called Body Pump that uses a bar with weights to provide a solid workout for all parts of the body. As I've experienced different instructors, I realized something important about how encouragement works, even at the gym.
One instructor gives no feedback during the class. She simply describes the mechanics of what we need to do during any given set. But another one constantly watches us and shouts out positive statements like, "You guys are awesome, you look great!" or "Just one more set, I know you can do it!" At 5:00 AM, I can tell you the difference in the response from the group is remarkable. Everyone seems to be more energized by the second instructor, and I certainly enjoy my workout more when she leads the class.
That experience shows what a difference encouragement makes. We all have opportunities to offer encouragement throughout the day. And you never know what impact you might have on someone else. A word of encouragement you give today can live in another's heart for a lifetime.