What You Don't Know about Anger Can Ruin Your Relationships

Many years ago I learned two things about anger that have impacted my relationships ever since.

The first was a working definition of anger: Anger is an expectation that hasn't been met.

More specifically, your anger stems from an expectation that someone else has not met. They surprise you by their words or actions. Maybe they say something negative about you in front of others. Or promised to do something for you but forgot. Whatever occurred, you're now unhappy about the outcome and you're somewhere between irritated and ready to explode.

Free Yourself from Outdated Expectations

"I've got to make the bed every morning before I can leave for work," my friend complained as we were having lunch one day. She had been describing the stress she was under, all the things she had to do each day, and why she had no time to relax. Making the bed was on her list of daily "must-do" tasks.

She looked startled when I asked her, "Why? Why do you feel that you have to make the bed every day?" After pondering the question a moment, she realized that it was one of the rules she'd absorbed from her mother and had never questioned in her almost-60 years of life.

Father of the Century: Dick Hoyt

Some challenges are so great that they bring us to our knees. This remarkable story about father-son team, Dick and Rick Hoyt, proves that we can create our own success - despite overwhelming obstacles.

About Me - Meredith Bell

I love encouraging action-oriented people to make changes that help them achieve greater success, both personally and professionally. I've been doing that as president of Performance Support Systems for the past 22 years and as an entrepreneur for the past 27 years.

I'm very excited that our latest product, ProStar Coach, gives high achievers the tools they need to take their performance to the next level. This unique virtual coaching system combines assessment, learning resources and a self-selected coaching network to help people ingrain skills and new behavior patterns.

For many years, my business provided management consulting services. Then, in 1994 we published 20/20 Insight, a software program for hosting a wide variety of surveys. We later introduced Surveys for Small Business, designed to help small organizations get feedback from their customers and employees.

During the past 15 years, I've coached and encouraged hundreds of consultants who use and sell our programs. I'm passionate about helping people discover how to use their strengths to achieve their goals.

On a personal note, my husband Lee and I have a grown daughter, Alison, who lives nearby and brings tremendous joy to our lives. Lee and I are avid bird watchers. Observing nature at work is my favorite way to relax and be "in the moment."

You can reach me at: 
Performance Support Systems, Inc.
P.O. Box 1655
Newport News, VA  23601
800-488-6463 or 757-873-3700 x201
meredith@prostarcoach.com